Greetings again all! So my lovely Janet and I are on a plane making our way back from a very successful and FUN business trip in “The city of brotherly love” Philly.
A two and a half days of conferences about safety, maintenance, and other relevant topics that are challenging to our industry at the moment. We had such a GREAT time running about the city in our off time and took in an AMAZING dinner on Tuesday night at a restaurant in the downtown area called Parc. It was a myriad of French cuisine and let me tell you, it DID NOT disappoint!!
The flavors of our dinner were so overwhelming and so decadent that we had to literally take a moment to process our pallets because they were on sensory and taste overload! If you ever travel to Philly, this is a MUST try!! It’s an old schoolhouse converted into a restaurant. It’s worth every penny!!!
So some of you may be wondering, “Santos, why the fuck is your blog entry titled “The Blue Jolly Rancher”? Well, allow me to explain. Back in the first week of May, my lovely penguin (that’s what we call each other, Janet and I) and I were having a lovely evening at our dinner table; we did our usual in catching up with each other’s day and exchanging the druthers of corporate life. (We both worked for corporate companies at the time) I had gotten a piece of candy for my penguin and left it on her placemat because I know she loves little treats like that.
Our conversation turned a bit serious for a second; she proceeded to unwrap said candy and pop it in her mouth. The faces she made along with the cute little swishing sounds that came from her enjoying her little morsel of love were too much for me to handle. She’s so adorable that it makes my heart fill and burst several times a day. Well, as the conversation deepened, Janet realized that this was a subject that wasn’t your ordinary grocery list, what do you want for dinner or honey can you kill that spider on the wall type of thing.
Our eyes met and she took one look at me took that blue luscious and delicious candy out of her mouth and placed it on the rim of a can of sparkling water that she had (we like Bubbly or La Croix, super good stuff!) in front of her. The sound that it made as the candy hit the aluminum can was a dull “tink” type thud. Now I had her full attention. The conversation that ensued after was a very heartfelt, raw and loving conversation (sorry folks, those details are for me and my lovely little penguin) she looked at me as I poured out affections and other sentiments of love to her; eyes welling up with tears and that beautiful, heart stopping smile that made me fall in love with her the very first time I met her… yup, it was like I was replaying the very first time I met my lovely and beautiful Queen.
She apologized for putting the candy in her mouth and not fully listening to me that night. Little does she know, that was one of the very cutest and most adorable things she has ever done and that will always be burned in my memory as a stitch in time that makes me smile no matter what mood I’m in or where I’m at. (I love you so very much my penguin, so VERY MUCH!). We finished out the evening with a love and emotions that we’ve both not experienced, EVER. It’s a night I’ll never forget. And honey, if you’re reading this, I’m sure you’ll never forget that night either.
Ok, ok … some of you are probably like “What in the hell fuck does a blue jolly rancher have to do with all of this???!!!”
Here’s what it is…
More often than not, we tend to hear someone and not truly listen to them. You don’t mean any disrespect by it, it just happens. Until you hear those key words or phrases in a conversation that make you go “oh, I’d better take that candy out of my mouth”
There are those that we come into contact every day that a two minute conversation can make a world of difference in someone’s life. Like, really change someone’s life. That person is coming to you for a reason so please, I ask you, truly listen to them. Don’t listen to respond (something I still fucking struggle with) but listen to understand and not to fix. They may want to just get something out and decompress. It’s our job to listen and see inside their soul from their lens. And then, and ONLY then if they ask for advice or a fix should you give your opinion or other thoughts.
Touching a human life in a non-physical way is such a powerful way of letting know someone you care about them or letting know that “hey, I empathize with you”. The power of words are very healing as well as devastating. Giving someone your full attention lets them know that we are vested in their well being and respect them as a fellow human being. (Not to say that my penguin didn’t respect me, she loves candy and little treats that I bring her so she was excited; her little squirrel moments make me crumble; she’s so fucking cute! And I thought our story would be a good catalyst for my blog… after all it’s all about positivity, right?)
There’s always something bigger than yourself and we all wage wars inside that others have no clue about. Be kind, be helpful, and be loving. Put the blue jolly rancher on the rim of your can and take every last word in.
Be well my brothers and sisters. Every last one of you are doing something exceptional! DON’T STOP!
Until my next entry, be kind to each other. Please.
⁃ Santos (aka: Penguin… I sure do love you honey)